Flu, friends and fun in a church

Easter has come and gone, and once more my favourite cherry tree is in extravagant blossom below my office window. a sure sign that summer is not far away.   One of  the resident minors passed into adulthood in April, and another celebrates her 18th birthday this coming week.   Both have now chosen their universities, and by October, I shall only have one resident child.   How quickly time seems to slip past when my mind is on other things!

As the rest of the country goes hysterical over the risk of Mexican swine flu, the family has all been afflicted with a much more British chesty cold.   With four of us hacking away, the house sounds like a TB sanatorium.   I comfort myself with the thought that once all are recovered, we have probably completed our annual quota of respiratory viruses, and the minors can look forward to a healthy summer and untroubled exam preparation.

The latter part of last term proved frustrating for me.   Other training demands on my students' time left them struggling with their assessed work.  Although some threw themselves into their final assignment, others were distracted and diffident, and it took all my energy to keep them going.   This ebb and flow of concentration is a hazard of teaching adults, and I sometimes flirt with the idea of diverting into schoolteaching instead.   But it would have to be a special kind of school, I think.

One bright spot, though, was the weekly visit of a dear friend who came to sit in on one of my courses, and then joined us for a meal afterwards.   The children competed to produce pleasing meals each week for him, and he rewarded them with generous appreciation and good company.   To celebrate the end of term, his wife came instead and wowed the resident minors with her wry perspective on the idiocies of life.   I have a small circle of friends, but those I have are all rather special.

Time for relaxation was harder to fit in.   Both of us have jobs which make erratic demands on our time, but my lover and I managed to have a few days away at half term, which gave me my first real chance to escape from the treadmill of work and parenthood this year.  Easter gave us another weekend  to enjoy together before the onslaught of the summer term.

The lesiure activity this term has been some ad-hoc research on stained glass.   Back in the days when I was a real student I did a course on medieval glass and iconography, and I never lost the sense of wonder that ancient glass provokes.   So when I heard of a perfect early 15th century church with a contemporary East window that was largely undocumented, I got hold of some photos and started exploring.   It is at such times that the internet provides a dilettante researcher with resources previously only available to the most assiduous scholar.   Identifying the heraldry was as simple as describing the arms in the correct technical terms and running a Google search.   Facsimiles of books online provided evidence, dates and names of those involved in restorations, and the most wonderful archive of stained glass photographs has given me hours of pleasure, searching for iconographic parallels and stylistic similarities.

So when the sun was shining last week, and I was 

owed some time off, I borrowed a pair of binoculars 

and set off to find this pretty little village with its fascinating church.   The churchyard was snowy with cherry-blossom and the church deserted, so I spent two hours peering at the window light by light to refine and correct what I had discovered from studying photographs.   In fact, although almost all of the East window is 15th century glass, not all of it was originally in the East window. The detective work involved in identifying which was which makes this an intellectual puzzle as well as an aesthetic treat, and I made discoveries and came to conclusions that left me with a deep sense of having done something satisfying with my time.

But satisfaction is a fleeting thing, and the approach of the minors' exams, uncertainties about the future and a yen for a new direction stir troublesome currents under the calm surface of my life.   I wonder what the summer holds?

Penitence and hope

Good heavens! Is it really that long? I assume that I no longer have an adoring public, after such wicked evidence of neglect. But in this lenten season, as an act of penitence, I write my blog to appease the ghosts of adorers past. Mea culpa, mea maxima culpa.

This has been a winter of - well, not discontent, but certainly of stress and irritation. Christmas came and went with the usual merriment. The day itself was was delightful, and not only because two of the three resident children were enjoying the sybaritic life in Alexandria. The remaining minor worked all day, so I had an interlude of calm once I'd delivered him to work, until second son arrived in the afternoon to do his filial duty. The evening was unexpectedly brightened by the arrival of friends who stayed late into the night, gave me good cause for a hangover, and ended the day with fun and with good companionship.

Epiphany brought the brood home for a day; and then term started in a blaze of irrational optimism under an insane workload. The first few days of January saw an additional flurry of work on a research project which may or may not come off, before the arrival of students and the grim reality of a heavy term and a lot of evening teaching. Bouts of illness, injury and scheduled surgery means that we have rarely had a full complement of staff, and the load has sometimes fallen heavily in my direction. Meanwhile, my A-level project proceeds only by fits and starts, and all hope of peace on the domestic front is lost as the minors hurtle towards A level exams.

This season's weather event was a spell of snow which turned the cemetery behind the house into a Christmas card scene and messed up all teaching for a week. Sub-zero temperatures for ten days ensured that the snow remained and kept students away, but the price had to be paid during half term week, when I had to run extra sessions to make up for the cancelled classes.

Meanwhile, working on exam resources has been a wonderful opportunity to indulge in artistic and literary approaches to theology, to read gorgeous books with glossy pictures of works of art, to wallow in front of films in the name of research, and to revisit some of my favourite classics. Middlemarch drew me in and made my heart ache, and oh, bliss, Brideshead Revisted... I have yet to see the latest film of the latter, but surely no-one could do justice to Waugh's masterpiece as wholly as the 1981 TV series? And yet, faithful as Mortimer's script was, beautiful as Anthony Andrews was, Waugh's language is a more whole (and holy) experience. The pleasure I have always taken in this book was heightened this time through by insights from other recent reading, especially the private letters of the Mitford sisters and Powell's Dance to the Music of Time. Self-indulgent bookishness is the tired woman's alternative to pleasures of the flesh.

I do have a personal life sometimes, even now. I've seen my lover more frequently than expected because our collaborative work schedule has required more or less regular meetings to progress the project, and we have managed to fit in one city break since Christmas. All the extra evening teaching means that these can be taken as time in lieu, and exploring together possible material for incorporation is a sweet reminder of our earliest days together when I was primarily the artist and he the theologian.

And now lent settles in, term moves purposefully towards its close and slowly, unobtusively, the changing season sneaks in, a  few hours at a time, a day here and there, a morning of sunhine or an evening of gentle warmth.   It has been a long winter, and I wait patiently for the kindness of spring.

Brain training

Christmas is coming.   Does that mean the goose is getting fat?  No chance.   The Advent fast is starting to bite: no meat, sweets, biscuits, desserts.... The children are revolting in more senses than one, and gorge on whatever animal flesh they can find if I'm out for a mealtime.  But that first Quality Street after Midnight Mass will be sweet indeed.

Life in a household of older teenagers is somewhat surreal.   They are all doing different A level subjects, and I'm the first port of call if they are struggling with their homework.   So in a single evening, I can be trying to revive my rusty maths to help with differential equations when another one cames to ask the difference between the Augustinian and Irenaean theodicies, and then switch straight to evaluating models for social research.   In between, I provide food, discipine, medical advice and interest-free loans.   Who needs gadgetry for "brain training" to stay mentally flexible?

Meanwhile, term rolls gently towards a close, with students starting now to panic that the essay season is upon us concurrently with the Christmas one.   There's a bit of general scratchiness in the air after a long term and some unusually heavy start-of-year stresses.   Most of my teaching this term has been research supervision, so I've kept up more effectively than usual with administration.  This last week, though, my colleague has been silenced by a nasty laryngitis bug, so I have been covering her teaching, which has been quite fun, for me if not for them:

Student: Thank goodness we will be judged by Jesus and not by you.

Me:  Maybe, but Jesus won't be marking your essays, and I shall.

Autumn being busy for both if us, I've seen less than usual of my lover, and our joint project is now badly in need of the extra effort we're going to put in over the Christmas holiday. After that I have another new project in the pipeline which, if it won't make me rich and famous, at least associates my name with those who are really doing exciting stuff.   Much as my heart is embedded in theology, it's very refreshing to do multidisciplinary work at this level.

One highlight of the term has been eldest son's MSc graduation from Sheffield Hallam.   We went out with him and his in-laws-to-be the evening before to look at the church where they will be married, and then had a meal together where the main topic of conversation was wedding planning, and therefore very scary stuff.   September next year seems a long time away yet, thank goodness.

Minor ups and downs

Steady drizzle blurring the chilly air and semi-naked trees in the cemetery bear witness to the fullness of autumn, and with the turning of the season, the academic year is now back in full swing.   Summer seems a distant memory, though part of the reason for that is the very poor weather we had through almost all of it.   I was waiting for the forecast of a week's dry weather to repair a door, but it never came, and the door still awaits attention.   

Good exam results for all the resident minors (I no longer dare call them "children") brightened the holidays.   

Youngest son went off to Egypt to work as a site engineer for seven weeks after his exams finished, and penultimate son and foster daughter enjoyed a rather lazier couple of weeks at the height of the summer in Alexandria. 

My camping trip never materialised - in fact, apart from a few days city break with my lover, summer was a period of relentless work.   The amount and complexity of administration seems to increase from year to year, and as the staff at our partner institutions apparently migrate en masse to warmer climes in July and August, even the most trivial things take weeks to complete.   I did fit in a couple of flying visits to London to see second son and daughter, who have both turned into astonishing lovely people while my back was turned.

The start of term coincided with a host of annoyances: minor illnesses (minors and pets), the threat of major disruption at work and the effects of too long without a break which left me irritable and stressed.   One by one the afflicted recovered (though we have to live with the consequences of Bertie's new allergy to fleas), issues at work were resolved, and a break with my lover and visiting family dissipated the tension.   Eldest son brightened my life further having gained his MSc, a new job (which pays more than mine) and a date for his wedding next year.

But as mists and mellow fruitfulness lead inexorably towards bonfire night and we hunker down for the dark winter, life looks brighter.   There's an exciting new collaborative writing project in the pipeline which gives us the opportunity to break new ground in professional practice.   I have dipped my toe into the murky waters of A level examining to add a string to my professional bow, and a stream of requests for journal articles means that I can keep my publications list up to date.   The minors are all taking their A level courses seriously enough to convince me that they might actually get to university, and I think the worst of their temperamental teenage years are behind us, so the atmosphere at home is, if not calm, certainly noisily congenial.   

This time next year, things will be very different, so I plan to enjoy the last year with a houseful of kids before the sands of time blow them away to their futures.

Summer Holiday - or not

As my father reminded me yesterday, and one of my adoring public today, there's been a quite unreasonably long gap between posts. I'm always frustrated by the widely held fantasy that lecturers have long, lazy summer breaks. Not a bit of it! Instead, there's all the end-of-year administration to do for the last academic year, and all the start-of-year preparations for the coming one, which overlap throughout the summer holiday. Students writing assignments over the summer still need supervision, and assignments that come in need marking. As a result, summer is one of the busiest periods in my calendar, and I've struggled to keep going without benefit of any proper holiday.

Towards the end of last term, I started work on an exercise in contextual theology following a murder of a teenager locally. Comparisons between the young Augustine of Hippo and the typical experience of local youngsters took me deep into Augustinian theodicy, and an analysis of the theology expressed by the young people who responded to this horrid event. I presented it as work in progress at a conference at UTU in July, but I hope to revisit it to develop the thinking in the autumn.

The children who were working towards exams when I last wrote are now enjoying their long summer break, however. Youngest son spent seven weeks post GCSE working as a site engineer in Egypt and came home tanned and lean to an excellent crop of GCSE results. A levels at the local sixth form college will follow, and he plans to do a degree in civil engineering with a view to turning his holiday experience into a career.

Second youngest son and foster daughter were enjoying their holiday in Egypt when their AS results came through, and they too did themselves credit. This year starts with them making their university choices before the final push towards A2 exams, so independence and adulthood suddenly seem awfully close.Despite the lack of holiday proper, I've had a couple of short breaks with my lover, and a wonderful day in the one really hot week we had visiting country pubs in his open topped sports car. In between times, I've used my limited leisure time to start work on an exploration of theology expressed by combattants in the First World War, after a friend mentioned the work of a relatively obscure war poet whose writings astonished me. Following this thread led me to spend a wonderful day a couple of weeks ago in Scarthin Bookshop in Cromford, whence I came home with early editions of Blunden and Brooke. Instead of the Guardian crossword, I now retire to bed with dusty books and a pencil to read and take notes so that the theology can float gently into my consciousness as I sleep.

Hail, bounteous May...

...that doth inspire
Mirth, and youth, and warm desire;

When Milton wrote his Song on a May Morning, GCSEs and A levels has not been invented - oh bliss! In my household, three people who could fairly be described as "youth" have spent much of May seeking inspiration in revision notes and late night swotting sessions as the exam season starts to bite. Youngest son is ploughing through GCSEs with (mostly) equanimity: this may be either appropriate confidence or rash bravado. We shall find out at the end of August. Meanwhile, penultimate son and foster daughter approach AS exams in quite different ways. He has prolonged bursts of intense activity punctuated by indolent lounging in front of the computer, while she runs an anxious treadmill of perpetual re-reading notes and self testing. My role in all this is to provide suitable light relief at intervals to punctuate the steady rise of stress levels. An excellently done am-dram farce in Hathersage and the latest Indiana Jones film both provided just the right level of escapism.

After an almost unbearably busy and stressful Spring term, things have become lighter at work. Although my colleague had two weeks off following surgery, her more regular presence has lifted much of the teaching load for this term. Once last term's marking was out of the way in mid-May, I have had something that almost looks like leisure time. Of course, on closer inspection, this is merely a redistribution of energy to other, less pressing matters, but it has given me time to fit in some work on other academic interests, including a presentation in London which gave me the rare opportunity to see second son. All this hardly constitutes "mirth", but it has led to a marked lightening of a mood which was becoming increasingly black and sour.

Warm desire is better represented. Spring throws up more flexibility in my lover's life so that we have been able to work and relax together more than usual. I am learning to enjoy fine dining and nice hotels without feeling guilty that I wake up relaxed, comfortable and warm, overcoming the self-righteous legacy of decades of rough camping. Not that camping is off the agenda: I have promised foster daughter a weekend under canvas so that she can learn to pitch a tent, fire up a primus, and enjoy the best bacon-and-egg experience of her life.

Towards a mid-life crisis

I dream of an uncomplicated life. You know, the kind of life where you know what to expect from day to day; where sane people work an 8 hour day, and spend time with spouse and children in the evenings and at weekends. Superficially, our household is not so very far from that model. No spouse, I grant you, but I work a five day week not far from home, and with three teenagers, a dog and a cat, we're not so very far from the pattern.

But that's where it ends. Predictability largely fails when it comes to teenagers, school and casual work: it's a major success of domestic logistics if I know who is going to be in for dinner on any given day, and with the more eccentric school hours of sixth form study, I'm never quite sure whether or not I have to get them up in the morning.

Meanwhile the lighter load of this term at work is about to revert with the news that my newly returned colleague is having surgery at the end of the month, leaving me once again to fill the gaps. I'm running out of energy for this kind of workload. I'm still reaping the effects of her last absence, marking twice the usual complement of essays after covering her teaching last term.

You'd think that things outside home and work might be a little better. Not a bit of it! Penultimate son was due to go on a school trip to see Equus at the Lyceum, but on the day of the trip, his head teacher suddenly discovered that it included swearing and nudity, and in a paroxysm of philistinism, cancelled the trip. (How could anyone *not* know Equus contained nudity and swearing after Daniel Radcliffe made the headlines therein?)

"Fear not - you shall go to the ball!"" I thought, spending the whole month's child benefit plus a bit in one go to get tickets for the last night. The first half was mesmerisingly wonderful. The second half was cancelled when the winches to lift the safety curtain broke. Sometimes, you get the feeling that things just were not meant to be...

Behind all this, I'm trying to arrange a controlled mid-life crisis as I review where I am and where I want to go next. Somewhere in the mix, I am trying to reconcile the fact that I am fed up of being poor with a genuine belief that what I am doing here has value; that I want a sexy car and a bit of a life before I'm too old to have either; the sense that there must be more to life than this with the dreadful sense that this is probably all there is.

A short break with my lover shortly after Easter gave me a little relief from the chaos and angst, and apart form the deliciousness of time together, also gave us the chance to do some work on our collaborative project. Doing something so very different to my normal work is both a challenge and a joy, and helps to keep at bay the simmering eddies of discontent. I think this is the psychological equivalent of spring-cleaning: one has to deal with creepy crawlies and cobwebs to restore order. But order will, no doubt, be restored soon enough.

And another one

I hope our house has elastic walls. Having made the fairly modest addition of a dog, we've now acquired an extra child, a schoolfriend of penultimate son who was left homeless after things failed at home. The spare room isn't ideal for a teenage girl, but it and the family can offer her some security and stability until the whole situation is sorted out, and that's unlikely to happen quickly. She's a joy to have around, sharing the chores and making her own mark on the way we work as a family. Parents' evening proved complicated, with two sets of teachers to see, but it was quite wonderful to be able to come home and tell two kids that I was proud of them.

Bertie has become very much part of 

the family, showing enthusiastic affection and gentle obedience, and occasionally giving us cause for merriment. A few days ago, the boys were playing Monopoly, and Bertie decided to join in, but he hasn't yet got the hang of taking his place at the board properly.

Now that the worst of the wet winter is over, walking the dog is more a pleasure than a chore. Each lunchtime, I escape the office for an hour, the first three-quarters of which sees the two of us hurtling round the cemetery. I've lost weight and lowered my blood pressure, and Bertie has gained weight and bounce, and now runs most of the way round, streaking away and back to the path so that he must travel twice the distance I do.

Meanwhile at work, term drew to a welcome close with the usual flurry of student tutorials, intensified because I had my sick colleague's cohort as well as my own two. In addition there are vocational training matters to deal with, and the odd crisis to survive. On a good day, I remind myself that I'm honing my organisational skills and stamina, but by the end of term, I was mostly just exhausted.

But term is over, and a beautiful Maundy Thursday service at the Cathedral last night reminded me why I do this stuff. 

Today we're all at home making hot cross buns with the prospect of an evening bowling and then going out for a meal. We have lots to celebrate: surviving a heavy term, the kind of parents' evening every Mum hopes for, youngest son's A* in maths GCSE (taken early), and happy additions to the family.

After a short break with my lover last month, we were able to fit in a city break recently, which after an arid winter, is positively an embarras de richesse. Fine food and champagne, shopping and art galleries, dinner with a friend and a luxury hotel - it's all a whole different world from the everyday grind, and I come back happy and refreshed. With so many positive things, I think Easter this year is going to be joyful indeed.

Old family and new addition

I apologise profusely to my adoring public, whom I have kept waiting far too long for the next installment of this journal. Things were going so well, too. The run up to Christmas was a little busy, but no more so than usual. Christmas seemed to be slow coming, but was happy and peaceful, with all the canonical family rituals happening at the appropriate times. We had a friend of penultimate son staying with us over the holiday, so there was plenty of scope for additional teenage merriment. On boxing day, youngest son and I went to visit my ex-in-laws, a lovely, welcoming family gathering. I am constantly in awe of my ex-belle-mère's generosity of spirit towards us, and grateful that she is happy for us all to keep in touch. Epiphany saw the now traditional gathering of the clan for a meal, exchange of gifts and then the stripping of the decorations to mark the end of the Christmas season. With three sons now well over 6ft and a fourth heading that way fast, this is rather easier than putting up the trimmings, which usually involves me and a kick stool in some precarious acrobatics. This year we had eldest son's fiancée and penultimate son's girlfriend to swell the crowd and help us get through enough food to nourish a small village, and a modest mountain of chocolates and toffees.

Term started well, but rapidly became demanding as my closest colleague became too ill to work, leaving me to assume her teaching, marking and some of her admin duties into my own workload. It's essential she takes enough time off to recover fully, and colleagues and associates have given freely of their time and energies to help keep the wheels running smoothly. I've found it tiring, and the extra time I have to spend completing the work inevitably impacts also on the boys, who are getting used to my spending evenings with the laptop and a pile of marking as soon as dinner is over.

The big news since my last entry is an addition to the household. Shortly after Christmas, a routine visit to the GP uncovered a problem with my blood pressure that required addressing urgently. Additional exercise seemed to be a solution, but I'm not really a gym person, and I spend too much having my hair dyed to risk turning it green with regular visits to the swimming pool. The search for something more congenial led me to consider when I last took regular daily exercise, and this provided a most happy solution. When I last had a dog, two daily walks were part of normal life. So we decided to get a dog.

We were very lucky to find the perfect animal very quickly. A phone call to the local Springer Spaniel Rescue identified a few possibilities, and one drizzly, windy afternoon, daughter and I went and walked a few of them round a muddy field as a wonderful lady talked us through their history - where known - and individual foibles. I fell in love with Bertie at first sight. He's a seven-year old neutered liver and white male, and, paperwork completed, we went back at the weekend to fetch him. Introducing him to the cat was uncomplicated - the cat spat and hissed and Bertie ignored her, with the chivalry of a gentleman who politely overlooks a lady companion's inebriation. He settled in as if he'd been here all his life, and we were delighted to discover that he answers to commands, comes to call, and behaves impeccably indoors and out, on the lead and off. If I wanted any confirmation that he's given us his love, it came when I was away overnight last week, and he greeted me on my return with unrestrained adoration and frantic affection. My other source of such loving attention has been as busy as I over the last couple of months, and we've only managed one day together, but it was enormous fun and well worth waiting for. I was allowed to drive his classic car - one of the items on my "list of things to do before I die". Once the present rush is over, we hope to spend a little more time in one another's company. It's been a year now - and a good one too.

Life cycles

In my life, as for others, there are cycles that come round regularly. One such is our student graduation ceremony in York Minster each November, when years of slogging and nagging and bullying all seem worth the effort. We dress up in our academic finery and process with York St John University staff to take our places and watch as our students collect their MA or Foundation Degrees. This year we were allocated a parking space, so we could travel up by car and arrived early enough to have a really good lunch beforehand at the Cafe Concerto within spitting distance of the Minster. The slightly fuzzy photo shows my colleague, the Director, and one of our students shortly after the ceremony: the fuzziness was caused by my shivering.

Shortly after that, a three-year cycle came round and Christine and I had to renew our First Aid certificates. It's always a shock to have to do something educational that has almost no cognitive content, aimed at those with limited skills: delivery was painfully slow, and the teaching style was weak by any standards. But we were reminded how to handle an emergency, stop bleeding, initiate CPR and use the recovery position, so our students, tutors and visitors are safe for another three years.

The cycle which generates the most work is the termly assessment one. From about half-term onwards, students are working on their assignments, which have to be handed in early in the following term. In the summer term, working with them on planning and drafting is a comparatively leisurely process, with long weeks of summer holiday in which to complete the work. Christmas is quite another proposition. All my students are either clergy or otherwise active in their churches, so the Christmas holiday leaves them little time to research and write. This means that essay planning and drafting has to start earlier, and move at a brisker pace, so that the bulk of the work is complete before the Christmas rush. So apart from teaching, the first three weeks of December each year is mostly taken up with student tutorials.

The domestic front has been equally lively. Youngest son has been looking at sixth forms and colleges for his A level studies, so after he'd narrowed down his choices, I had the dubious pleasure of visiting one (quite terrible) school and one (very pleasant) sixth form college. It's a relief that youngest son and I concur that the college will suit his needs in every way. He's likely to be a high flyer, and I think he'll find his wings more easily in the more focused atmosphere of the college. This particular activity marks the end of a part of my life cycle: from September next year, I won't have a single child in compulsory education. Eldest son started school in 1986, so it's been a long haul.

Second youngest son, meanwhile, does his share to brighten my life by being good at theology (much to my surprise). His (quite delightful) girlfriend occupies our spare room often enough that she's been allocated a share in the household chores, which she does with good humour. The two of them have now managed to co-ordinate their part time jobs so that they are both working at the same time, and therefore have the same time free, at least some of which is supposed to be spent revising for the exams after Christmas. How can teenagers revise for two different subjects (him-theology, her-psychology) with one sat on the other's knee?

Alas, my lover's work has been as busy as mine recently, and we've not been able to co-ordinate diaries to spend time together, though there's the possibility of a short interlude during the Christmas holiday. We've been working together on a developing project which has given us more excuses than usual for long phone calls, though, and the internet makes collaborating over long distances possible and fruitful.

We're now well into Advent and though the cycle of the church year rolls inexorably towards Christmas, there is yet a sense of stillness and waiting as the term draws to a close. This week's frosty, misty mornings and sharp, starry nights give a sense that all creation is preparing for something very special.

Holiday Pleasures

After an indifferent summer, autumn is proving to be a beautiful season of rich colour and gentle weather. Or perhaps it just looks better because I had a week away from work, my first full week's holiday since spring.

The beginning of term brought the usual mix of relief that the hectic preparations were completed in time, terror at the prospect of delivering a heavy MA course on Religion and Ethics to new students, and enjoyment as the influx of new and old students reawakened the pleasure of teaching after a summer of paperwork and administration. But it also renewed the exhaustion that had been barely kept at bay over the late summer, so between lectures and tutorials I spent the week before half-term clearing my desk and warning students and colleagues that I would be unavailable.

Given that I'm usually off over the weekend, my holiday started at 9am on the Monday morning of half term. At 9.30, the phone rang. It was a colleague from the office requiring computer support. I don't suppose people mean to spoil things... Once that was dealt with, I was free to take off for a few days with my lover - good food, lots of wine, and gentle and loving companionship, without my work or domestic drudgery to spoil the joy.

My final treat to myself was a day's walking in the Peak District. I'd originally planned a couple of nights B&B in the Lake District, but even late into autumn, last minute vacancies are hard to find. So I packed up a flask of home-made soup and a hunk of freshly-baked bread and took off moderately early with a book in my pocket to my favourite spot. The walk was undemanding, but energetic enough to feel refreshing. A steady, but not stiff, breeze, dappled sunshine between scuttling clouds, and enough warmth to shed my jumper as soon as I was moving made it a perfect day to blow away cobwebs. There were few walkers, and those there were passed with a brief "G'morning" as they strode purposefully past, leaving me peace to collect my thoughts and savour the pleasure of the previous few days.

The soup was still blistering hot and the bread cosily warm when I climbed off the path and down to the brook's edge for lunch, sitting in full sun hidden from the path, and reading George Elliot's Scenes from Clerical Life as the water gurgled over the rocks at my feet. After an hour or so, I decided that a good lunch deserved a good pint to follow, so I took a detour from the walk towards an indifferent but conveniently situated pub. Most of their clientele at this time of year are parvenu foodies from South Sheffield drinking pinot grigio spritzers with their pan-fried venison, so I took my pint outside and enjoyed the twittering of birds in preference to the twittering inside the bar.

One of the pleasures of autumn walking is that the length of the day determines the length of the walk. The sinking sun coincided nicely with that achy tiredness in the legs that signals time to head back home. Oh, for more weeks thus occupied...

But returning to work has its pleasures too. Students take wing with their assignment plans and astonish me with their insight and creativity. An old friend visits to teach a session and stays over, giving us each the chance to unburden our cares and joys in the company of someone who understands. The tentative relationships formed with new students become warm and productive friendships as we work together. A rare opportunity to engage with post-16 education adds a new dimension to the work. I remember that I really like my job.

And so the cycle of the year goes on. All Saints, Remembrance and then before we know it, Advent, the start of a new church year: the fast before the feast to come. I love autumn.

Work and play

Everyone knows that outside term time, academics enjoy unhurried leisure. I'm trying to figure out where I'm going wrong. The end of August was hectic as I tried in vain to clear my desk before a week's enforced absence following surgery on 31st. Students in the final stages of essay writing needed comfort and encouragement, and the pre-term paperwork was starting to need some urgent attention. But then for a whole, glorious week, I slept 18 hours out of 24 and moped uselessly around the house in between as the stitches healed and the pain eased. I managed to complete a journal paper but gave up trying even to read much as I fell asleep over anything in print. A week of half-time work followed, which at least gave me the chance to start making inroads into the pile of paperwork on my desk, but the counterweight to that was the arrival of essays to mark and a continuing tendency to doze off after lunch for up to four hours without troubling my nighttime sleep at all.

Part of the problem was a long-planned change to our office email and web site. Re-arranging the email was easy, but setting it up and helping staff to get the hang of it was more stressful, and the detailed work on the web pages required more undisturbed concentration than I had available. I regret to say I became rather ill-tempered as the process wore on, but at least it is done now, and staff in general seem to prefer the web-based interface for email.

Staff absences since have padded out my job description to include temporarily premises management, office clerical work and general dogsbodying, all tasks which I shall be glad to relinquish when various members of staff trickle back in after the weekend. The prospect of the arrival of taught students for induction and a new batch of research students on Monday has already lifted my spirits if not my productivity.
Meanwhile at home, second-youngest son has found a job which pays well and fits around A level studies, and he has already proved himself to his employers as a reliable and serious worker. Both he and youngest son have tackled their schoolwork with more determination this term than previously as well, so we have a studious and productive household at present. In the same spirit of the learning, I'm exploring further possibilities for my own study as well, and am considering a part-time Master's degree in Canon Law from next September, if they'll have me.

However, play rather than work has caused a headache as well. Just as I was going out, I said the the boys "Please don't kick the ball towards the house. Sooner or later, someone is going to break a window." Minutes later, the prophecy was fulfilled, and we're still waiting for the new glass.

Following on from my last blog entry, we have just acquired a Sheffield Monopoly. The boys were delighted to discover that Bramall Lane is worth more than Hillsborough. Do I detect a little local point-scoring?

One of the real pleasures of my research field is the opportunities it offers to make work playful, and play academically, if not financially, profitable. Expanding my explorations in cyberspace to social networking has nudged me to join Facebook, where to my surprise I have discovered colleagues, friends, family and students all quite happy to exchange silliness as well as sense. My excuse is that I am working on some Key Stage 5 RE resources and need a more comprehensive overview of all things cyber - so it is work, honest! And it does my ego no harm at all to discover from a Facebook quiz that one reasonably good acquaintance thinks I'm SIX years younger than I am.

I was also lucky enough to steal a day with my lover. The Met Office promised bright periods and low temperatures, but it turned out to be warm and unflinchingly sunny, with just a whiff of autumn freshness. We walked along the towpaths and out into open fields, lunched by the locks and poked around village churches, ending up on the bank of the canal lazily watching boats chugging by as the evening chill descended - a warm, happy day of sheer joy and the most relaxing kind of play.

'Tis a Gift to be Simple

Just when I was starting to think that information technology had finally taken over, I've been reminded this week that there's mileage in simple, old-fashioned entertainment. The first clue was the displacement of a stack of dusty board games in the hallway - fourth son and friends had been playing Monopoly and the Game of Life. I thought this might be a one-off, but the Monopoly was out again this evening and there were several long discussions about whose house rules applied.Meanwhile, last Monday, my beloved uncle drew my attention to an article in the Guardian on the subject: it seems that board games may be making a modest come-back. He has just taken up Mahjong, a game that is deliciously sensual with its heavy, decorated playing tiles that click as they move around on the table. I've always loved Scrabble, and not the online variety, but the get-the-dictionary-out, pour-the-wine, score-on-the-back-of-envelopes game that can turn lovers into enemies with a Q on the triple word score. Cribbage is a delicious combination of luck and skill and doesn't require a wide circle of friends, and the most miserable of wet afternoons can be riotous fun if you play Canasta for blood.

However, I still like being able to play games on my phone, and in preparation for a train journey downloaded the latest Harry Potter offering at enormous cost. Unfortunately, the text is so tiny, I can't read it. As son number four pointed out, holding a magnifying glass over the screen of my dead sexy mobile phone as I zap baddies "kinda spoils the cool look".

All of which suggests a leisurely August - something that I haven't really had. Staff summer holidays at our institution and our partner university have made getting collaborative things done close to impossible. I decided to go in person last week to see if physical presence might be more effective than unanswered emails and ringing out phone calls. Alas, no. Two of the people I'd hoped to see were in meetings all day; another called to say he wouldn't be coming in. And yet another gave brief answers to my questions but was "too busy with other things to deal with that now".

But I refused to consider the day wasted. I met a friend for a drink, mooched around the SPCK bookshop, read for hours, and then went to Evensong in the Minster. It's a service I used to go to frequently when I was younger, but rarely manage now. Sheffield Cathedral choir isn't really in the same league as the cathedral choirs I remember (or perhaps the building doesn't have the ringing acoustics), and fewer and fewer clergy know how to conduct evensong with impassive reverence. The boys and clerks were away for the summer, but a passable visiting choir made a fair stab at a traditional setting. Visiting choirs rarely sing with the resonances of the building, in my experience: they sing too tightly and don't allow the music to ring. It was a large congregation, for a midweek evensong, made up mostly of tourists, but the service was dignified and gentle. To my great delight, the organist ended with a piece that means a great deal to me, Lang's Tuba Tune, played with energy and precision. I almost danced back to the station with delight.

Youngest son has now arrived back from his visit to his Dad's (up at 6.45 on a Bank Holiday Saturday to go and fetch him!). When I come home from work each evening there's a different configuration of sons and friends, and some evenings they both sleep over elsewhere. This makes planning and preparing meals a bit of a lottery: one never knows how many people - if any - will sit down to eat until perhaps half an hour beforehand. And some of my best recipes take an hour to cook...

If work has been busy, personal affairs have been less to the fore. A delicious walk in the park, hand in hand, with my lover, a convivial meal with friends, and a meal to celebrate some pretty good GCSE successes: these have been the sum of my social activities in August. Instead, I come in from work more tired each day than the day before, and drift through domestic chores and paperwork until bedtime. It's becoming clear that a summer without a proper break from work is unhealthy. I shall treat myself to a week off at half-term and go away somewhere, perhaps with the tent. There's nothing like bacon and eggs cooked on a primus for restoring one's appreciation for life. And for entertainment, there's always the Guardian crossword.

Flanders and Swann were right...

July: end of term, summer holidays, sunshine and leisure... er, no. The beginning of July was busier even than the end of term normally is, as we tried to make up the teaching sessions we missed when Sheffield was flooded. With half the staff away at Methodist Conference, this required more than the usual amount of juggling, but with the generous co-operation of students and a bit of creative time management, everyone had all the teaching time they were supposed to have and we're now into a rash of tutorials as students prepare their module essays.

I did manage to steal a little time off for a short city break with my lover, and the restorative effect of good food, museums and libraries, and gentle, attentive company made me feel human again. The effect was marginally compromised by the almighty hangover I came home with, but even that was a reminder of a lovely time away.

The Urban and Contextual Theology Summer School started the day I returned, and it was the best I remember. Practitioners and academics spent two days sharing papers describing and exploring experience and theology. I've been working on the concept of sacrament in cyberspace, so I floated some early thinking and was rewarded with some useful new directions to investigate. These summer schools are also very congenial affairs, and two of the delegates and I went out on the Thursday evening. We were an odd assortment - a Roman Catholic priest in mufti, a black Anglican vicar in full clericals and I, strolling through the cemetery on a summer's evening, being hailed by a young black man who waved at us and called "Jesus saves, brother" as we passed by on the way to the pub and the Indian restaurant across the road.

With both boys now off school, their social lives have become more noticeable, and I often come home to assorted teenagers draped over the furniture or clustered round the computers. It's pleasure to see how the odd bunch of kids they all were is turning into such a nice group of young men, keeping their friendships intact through changes of schools and circumstances.

But sunshine? Not a chance! Flanders and Swann's description seems about right:

"In July the sun is hot
Is it shining? No, it's not"

July has been the wettest on record, I believe. The slightly overgrown garden of June turned into a tropical jungle in weather that varied only between heavy rain and drizzle. Bindweed took over one corner of the garden and crept along the back of the house, and knee-high grass had to be trampled down when the boys wanted to play swingball. The usual summer visitors, birds, butterflies and ladybirds, were replaced by slugs, snails and earthworms, so that the garden started to feel like some kind of dank, moisture-ridden underworld.

But at last it feels as if summer is in the air. We've had several days together that have been sunny and warm. Fourth son and I have spent two days hacking away the misbegotten greenery, cutting grass and turning the jungle into a garden again. Five sacks of garden waste and two rubble bags of rotten wood have gone from the garden to the council recycling site, and the butterflies are flitting around the windflowers. This evening, we're having a barbecue to celebrate.

The forecast for tomorrow is rain. Fleeting joys...

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No man is an island...

...but parts of Sheffield were this week! To understand what happened, you need to go back 10 days to Thursday 14th and Friday 15th June June. Steady rain overnight raised water levels and by morning there were areas of localised flooding. I was on my way back from the other side of the Pennines, and the journey that normally takes around an hour and a half took over four hours, of which the last 90 minutes were spent trying to find a route from the M1 to home. The obvious route - via Chapeltown - looked OK, and there were cars coming in the opposite direction, which seemed like a good sign. But when I reached the dip in the road, I too had to turn back and retrace the route I had just travelled. Ecclesfield proved equally impassible, so eventually, I pulled over and plotted out a route that I knew would keep me on hillsides.

Now fast forward to the afternoon of Monday 25th June. We'd had warnings of severe weather from the Met Office, so the persistent, torrential rain was hardly unexpected. It was a little crazy at work. Despite being close to the top of a hill, we have an intermittent spring in the cellar library which produced around two inches of water. Meanwhile, the builders were halfway through re-roofing, and the beautiful new roof had neither ridge tiles nor flashing, so water was pouring through into the upper rooms and down the chimney breasts. Genesis 7 was working in reverse - the waters below the firmament were rising up, and the waters above the firmament were pouring down, and the firmament between was shrinking rapidly. Then the lights went out... but it was only a brief power cut, not the end of Creation as we know it.

Being so far up the hill, we didn't realise till quite late that the city was coming to a standstill. By evening, Sheffield's seven hills had become seven islands as the five rivers, already swollen from the previous rain, all burst their banks. The sudden rise in water levels was catastrophic, and low-lying parts of the city were under five to eight feet of water. The one student who hadn't managed to get away, and one of the tutors, had to resign themselves to staying with staff members, and the secretary finally gave up after travelling about 750 yards in two hours, and spent the night at the director's house. Actually, I quite enjoyed the company of the unexpected guest, and youngest son wasn't at all sorry to have an unplanned day off school. We learnt the next day that that one of the chaplains had to spend the night in a flood shelter in town.

Sitting here in the highest house in this part of the city, we were quite untouched by it at home. The children were already in when the rivers burst their banks, and it wasn't until I turned on the TV the next morning that I appreciated how lucky we were. Two people were killed locally when they were washed away, including a 14 year old child, and people were trapped on the upper floors of buildings or had to abandon their homes. We have even been spared the cycling power cuts as the electricity suppliers try to patch in areas affected by flooded sub-stations. I have followed events on Sheffield Forum and the BBC, feeling oddly detached. Sheffield Forum has come into its own, keeping people informed about emergency services, road closures, power supplies and school closures, and in addition acting as a hub for neighbourly help as those unaffected offer goods, services and a helping hand to the victims. It has also been a good source of amusement:Sheffield Wednesday's ground at Hillsborough turned into a swimming pool.

Today, Thursday, the roads are mostly open again and superficially there is an air of normality. But it will be a very long time before the damage is put right.

Between the two storms, I had surprise visitors when my cousin called to ask if we could put him, his wife and stepdaughter up for the night after his brakes failed on the A57. It was one of those quite unexpected delights that occasionally happen to break through the stress of day-to-day tedium. We walked down to the pub for some locally brewed real ale, and then had a really good meal in a local Indian restaurant, returning for another couple of drinks before heading home. It's a few years since we've really spent any time together, and I've not had the chance to get to know his wife before: we discovered much in common, and I hope we'll manage to keep in touch properly now.

Two days later, I delivered two lectures to the Cliff College Postgraduate Alumni Association. The other speaker was my undergraduate dissertation supervisor, whom I haven't seen since 1998, so it was a privilege to share the platform with him, though also quite terrifying. We discovered that our areas of interest overlap considerably, and there's probably scope for some joint work which would be good both for us as academics, and for our respective institutions between whom there has historically been some rivalry.

Tomorrow is St Peter's Day, and I'm looking forward to the arrival of another very welcome guest. June has brought water and guests in abundance - I wonder what July holds in store?

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Sporting ups and downs

An email from my public reminds me that it's well over a month since I last wrote, and I've been consulting my diary to see what excitements have pushed the passing of time so far from my mind. It's a little disappointing to discover that little more than normal domesticity and work have been the main occupations, and the most pressing and time-consuming task has been marking module essays and dissertations, and completing the mountain of paperwork to go with them. Actually, it was a good crop of results - five of my six MA students got a merit, and one of my dissertation students crowned her studies with a distinction.

Then on 14th May we had a lunch gathering at UTU to say goodbye to Janet, who has been Support Services Manager for 7 years. This photo shows the UTU holy trinity of Janet, Judith (the secretary) and Christine (the director). The blonde lady hiding in the background is Janet's replacement, Kate.The following day I managed to escape to spend a night away in a cute village B&B and a day with my lover sharing a date that for various reasons matters to us both. Getting back to teach for 6.30 should have been an easy trip, but a massive accident on the M1 added an hour and a half to the journey. Advance planning meant that I'd left the teaching materials ready, and the last half hour was punctuated by phone calls (bluetooth, of course) to the resident student giving instructions in case I was unable to be there on time. However, my guardian angel pulled out the stops, and I walked into UTU with two minutes to spare.

One highlight of the last few weeks was a Keith James concert at the Boardwalk with a dear friend and his colleague. I was introduced to the music of Nick Drake some years ago, and Keith does a marvellous job of making Drake's music his own without ever dishonouring it. I've seen two of his Nick Drake tribute concerts before, and this one was a very welcome break from a very stressed week.

The corresponding low came the following weekend, when youngest son and eldest son, both Sheffield United fans by birth and breeding, went to the last match of the season together. The fate of the club was in the balance: they needed at least a draw to be certain of avoiding relegation. If they lost, it would then depend on the result of the match between West Ham and Manchester United. In the event, Sheffield United lost and West Ham won. There was a palpable air of mourning as the two lads and Dan's girlfriend arrived back, and no amount of sympathy could lift their mood. I discovered then that "it's only a game" is not a helpful comment for a mother to make under such circumstances.

After an overnight in a hotel with my lover (champagne and strawberries - who says romance is dead?), my own interest in sport was better served by a day out at the National Schools Regatta just outside Nottingham, where a team from my old school were rowing. It was the best kind of outdoor fun - lots to watch, good sportsmanship and passion on the water and on the banks. I met up with an old friend who was coaching one of his school's teams, and both his team and the girls from my old school won first their heats, then their semis, then their finals. In between, we swigged champagne in his school's hospitality tent, and had some time together for a walk and chat.

Second youngest son has already finished his GCSEs in Egypt, and returns to the maternal hearth on Wednesday. Although it's only just past half term, it's already feeling as if we're winding down towards summer. On warm days I can teach in the UTU garden in the evenings, and there's already an end-of-year feeling in the air. Summer promises to be rather good this year, I think.